I am trying to figure out how to strike a balance here. I do not want Armydad to feel like everything has changed. I don’t want him to feel he needs to ask what the bedtime routine is or what the boys can and cannot do. But, I need some changes. If I am going to survive this, I have to make some changes. Some are out of necessity, some are to improve our habits. Here are the changes so far:
– Bedtime was a necessity. The boys had gotten into the habit of falling asleep on the couch while snuggling with us. I am having trouble lugging their dead weight to bed, so bedtime had to happen in their room. Now, we go to their room, read a couple books, turn off the lights, say prayers, and give kisses. I leave the room while they are awake and they fall sleep on their own.
– TV time. This one is because I feel their TV watching has gotten out of hand. I have felt that way for a while. But, I never imposed ruled because Armydad’s schedule changed so much, I did not want to limit him for the days he was only home in the morning or only at night. Now, I am going to try very hard to turn the TV off at 9am. Then we can go somewhere, do a craft, or just play. After school, another hour os so will be allowed.
– Schedule. I think I am going to try and come up with a schedule and have every hour of every day planned. I think I will be more likely to exercise, cook meals, turn the TV off, etc if it is scheduled. It will help me to be more productive.
That is all I have come up with right now. I am sure more changes will occur. I want things to stand still so Armydad does not miss anything, but our lives cannot stop while he is gone…